Absolutely cried while reading this and looking at all the photos. I'm truly sorry for the loss of what sounds like a great man. The way you put into words that aweful feeling of having someone in our lives one moment and gone the next really hit hard.
We lost my grandmother this year. Fine one minute, then blood sugar spiking, two crashes later, and she was comatose. She held on for a few days but then passed away. I had only just introduced my wife to her a few months prior but my brother had not gotten the chance to introduce his soon to be fiance. And it crushed him knowing they'd never get to meet.
As I reach 30 and get older it becomes even more clear to me so are my parents. Being unemployed this past year sucked. But getting to spend it living with my dad was the best. Along with being close enough to visit my mom.
I'm sure writing this post was difficult. I really appreciate you opening up about such a personal moment with a special person in your life. The memory of your dad lives on now not only through you but your fans as well having read this story. Much love to you and your family this holiday.
Man, I felt that. Next year it'll be 10 years since he left us to be with his lifelong friends in heaven. He was the last of his Mohicans. I always say, you might hate or dislike things about your loved one(s) now, but there comes a time when you're gonna miss those things. I see a lot of him now in myself when I look into the mirror, and those aren't just visual things. I have his temper, his grumpiness, his love for Indonesian food and culture.. so in a way, he never left his family and is still there every day..
Thank you for sharing this story, and my heart goes out to you and your family. I couldn't imagine how hard it was (and still is) to not have those final moments with your Dad. The photos speak to your Dad just as much as your words.
I lost my own mother 15 years ago yesterday... Cancer. She had been fighting right up until the doctors told her that there was nothing more that they could do for her. She was in palliative care within two weeks and left us a week after that. I remember the long hours in the hospital, cherishing the brief flashes of lucidity and trying to help her through the really bad moments of confusion as best I could. Those were tough days, but I wouldn't give them up for the world.
Like you, I have kids that will never know their Grandma. I show them the few pictures I have of her (she hated being in pictures), and I tell them all the stories I can think of. I reinforce that she would have adored them with all of her heart and they would have been the very definition of spoiled. I also make sure that they know how strong a woman she was, especially for my daughter - She was a single working mother, a teacher and never once made me feel that I was less for not having a father in our little family.
All I can offer you is my condolences, and to encourage you to feel everything you need to feel when this time rolls around. If you need anyone to talk to, you have an amazing community here that will give you anything and everything you may need.
Thanks for this, his story, your story. Being so sad to read, it somehow felt like a celebration, because of all those grandpa smiles in the pictures, that seem to be coming directly from a big soul.
I feel you man, thank you for sharing. My Dad left this planet about 22 years ago, and I still miss him, and yes, I would loved that he knew my son, but he could not.
On the brighter side of that I can now think about him with a lot less sadness and more smiles and joy than a few years ago. I hope you will do the same soon. :)
We lost my Dad back in April and since then it's been, my first birthday without him, my sister's first birthday without him, first Thanksgiving,and now coming up on the first Christmas. My nephew will never know the great man my dad was but he will be told. I don't remember much of my life before him (technically Step Dad but he'd been my father for over 30 years so..my Dad) and now it's hard to imagine life without him. My heart goes out to you boss.
This is such a wonderful tribute. You paint a terrific picture of what a great guy he was. I’m coming up on 9 years since my dad died - grief is weird and terrible and hard to express and I always appreciate those who put it out there. Sending love to your family.
Thanks for sharing and i couldn't imagine what you went through. It's definitely important to share the stories you had so he lives on in the memories. Seems like he raised a great family and you were lucky to have such a great father.
Thanks for sharing Skottie, we have talked about Dad's and such about a few cons over the years. If you recall at SDCC 2018, we even chatted about having you come on the podcast to talk Middlewest and "Dad stuff". I would love to make it happen soon! Just let me know, thanks.
Thanks for sharing your dad with us, Skottie. Those photos are fantastic! ❤️
That was beautiful man, I have tears in my eyes now. Thanks for sharing. He looks like a great man, and an awesome father and grandfather.
Absolutely cried while reading this and looking at all the photos. I'm truly sorry for the loss of what sounds like a great man. The way you put into words that aweful feeling of having someone in our lives one moment and gone the next really hit hard.
We lost my grandmother this year. Fine one minute, then blood sugar spiking, two crashes later, and she was comatose. She held on for a few days but then passed away. I had only just introduced my wife to her a few months prior but my brother had not gotten the chance to introduce his soon to be fiance. And it crushed him knowing they'd never get to meet.
As I reach 30 and get older it becomes even more clear to me so are my parents. Being unemployed this past year sucked. But getting to spend it living with my dad was the best. Along with being close enough to visit my mom.
I'm sure writing this post was difficult. I really appreciate you opening up about such a personal moment with a special person in your life. The memory of your dad lives on now not only through you but your fans as well having read this story. Much love to you and your family this holiday.
Man, I felt that. Next year it'll be 10 years since he left us to be with his lifelong friends in heaven. He was the last of his Mohicans. I always say, you might hate or dislike things about your loved one(s) now, but there comes a time when you're gonna miss those things. I see a lot of him now in myself when I look into the mirror, and those aren't just visual things. I have his temper, his grumpiness, his love for Indonesian food and culture.. so in a way, he never left his family and is still there every day..
..and the man I am referring to in my post is my dad. I forgot to mention that, sorry.
Wow, What a story indeed, Im so sorry for your loss Skottie and thanks for everything you do
He sounds like a great dad, not even death can take that from you. My heart goes out to you bro.
Ah, Skottie. Thank you for sharing this with us. <3
Always think of all of you during this holiday. He was a great guy and always will be so missed and missed by so many! 💜
Thank you for sharing this story, and my heart goes out to you and your family. I couldn't imagine how hard it was (and still is) to not have those final moments with your Dad. The photos speak to your Dad just as much as your words.
I lost my own mother 15 years ago yesterday... Cancer. She had been fighting right up until the doctors told her that there was nothing more that they could do for her. She was in palliative care within two weeks and left us a week after that. I remember the long hours in the hospital, cherishing the brief flashes of lucidity and trying to help her through the really bad moments of confusion as best I could. Those were tough days, but I wouldn't give them up for the world.
Like you, I have kids that will never know their Grandma. I show them the few pictures I have of her (she hated being in pictures), and I tell them all the stories I can think of. I reinforce that she would have adored them with all of her heart and they would have been the very definition of spoiled. I also make sure that they know how strong a woman she was, especially for my daughter - She was a single working mother, a teacher and never once made me feel that I was less for not having a father in our little family.
All I can offer you is my condolences, and to encourage you to feel everything you need to feel when this time rolls around. If you need anyone to talk to, you have an amazing community here that will give you anything and everything you may need.
Take care, brother.
Thanks for this, his story, your story. Being so sad to read, it somehow felt like a celebration, because of all those grandpa smiles in the pictures, that seem to be coming directly from a big soul.
I feel you man, thank you for sharing. My Dad left this planet about 22 years ago, and I still miss him, and yes, I would loved that he knew my son, but he could not.
On the brighter side of that I can now think about him with a lot less sadness and more smiles and joy than a few years ago. I hope you will do the same soon. :)
We lost my Dad back in April and since then it's been, my first birthday without him, my sister's first birthday without him, first Thanksgiving,and now coming up on the first Christmas. My nephew will never know the great man my dad was but he will be told. I don't remember much of my life before him (technically Step Dad but he'd been my father for over 30 years so..my Dad) and now it's hard to imagine life without him. My heart goes out to you boss.
This is such a wonderful tribute. You paint a terrific picture of what a great guy he was. I’m coming up on 9 years since my dad died - grief is weird and terrible and hard to express and I always appreciate those who put it out there. Sending love to your family.
❤️❤️❤️thank you for sharing him with us!!
Thanks for sharing and i couldn't imagine what you went through. It's definitely important to share the stories you had so he lives on in the memories. Seems like he raised a great family and you were lucky to have such a great father.
Thanks for sharing Skottie, we have talked about Dad's and such about a few cons over the years. If you recall at SDCC 2018, we even chatted about having you come on the podcast to talk Middlewest and "Dad stuff". I would love to make it happen soon! Just let me know, thanks.